This encounter has never left me. It has become a defining lens through which I view life: We all have a choice! We can build a life we choose, around the things that matter to us. We do not have to be stuck in a rat race, or constrained by society’s definitions. We do not have to lose our personal power to the pursuit of money. A life of purpose had to be deliberately designed and prosperity was not exclusive to peace of mind.
By the time I was 9 years old, I had written a book called “Spiritual Adventure”, and although I cannot remember the content vividly, it was more how my parents encouraged us to use our gifts to bless the world. From that fundamental core, I would go on to write exceptional poetry, lead and win national debating competitions, create scripts, act in stage dramas, as well as paint abstract drawings before I was 15 years old. My mother would forbid anyone to shut me up or restrain me from speaking my mind because she kept saying “people would pay in dollars to hear me speak”.
I grew up in so much liberty, strength and acceptance. My parents did a stunning job of brainwashing me into the belief that I was a born winner, that I could do anything and life was rigged in my favor. I still believe them till today. Their values and vision grounded me and provided the right launch pad in life. I got into College and literally, fell into a world of opportunities. Now I understand that the significant experience my parents spent my first 15 years creating for me was Conscious Conditioning. They tilted my world view in the direction of positive vibes, possibilities, and power, which still impact on my life’s experiences till now! I believe this is the central element I bring to my coaching – elevating the perspective and perception of those who work with me; till the sight of success is an irrevocable and irrepressible reality in their minds.
By my second year in College, I started what became a widespread inspirational movement for young women seeking a safe space and compelling community to heal, share and grow; reaching thousands of female students in ripple effect over a four year period. Just before graduating, the organization hosted an eight-week, curriculum-driven “Purpose Discovery School” for over a hundred young women; culminating in a heavily-decorated awards ceremony. By then, I had started to see my passion for women evolving.
Three years after College, I founded Deborah Initiative for Women, with 27 women in Olamide’s home: She remains very dear to my heart. A journey of almost 9 years, we have since risen to a Close-Knit Partnership of over 350 women in 7 countries, reaching thousands of other women with mentorship, community, resources, and outreach. I continue to salute the extraordinary generosity of our Partners, for their commitment to advance the God’s Kingdom Agenda in every way possible.
One year after I started Deborah Initiative for Women, I got married to Ayodeji, my friend and lover who is truly, a good man. By the time I had my first daughter, my life flew into a literal turmoil that I could not find a nexus to hold it all together. The demands were overwhelming: juggling my consulting work, with doing ministry through Deborah Initiative for Women, to staying joyfully married, keeping a home, and being a happy woman. The feelings of disharmony, dissatisfaction, and utter disbelief I felt was unimaginable! I was constantly out of energy, struggling to keep myself organized, and feeling under enormous pressure in my life. However, just two months after her birth, I published and launched three pocket books. Everyone considered it an amazing feat, but I was acting out my inner conviction that marriage and motherhood should not make a woman less than her visionary self, but it was still so hard.
By the time my daughter was about 9 months; I had gotten a better hang of my personal equilibrium. My balancing art was stronger, performance at work was back up, ministry was flourishing again, and I was definitely in a better place. Around this time, my consulting firm flew me to Dubai to train middle management staff of the country’s state-owned oil corporation. Word about my exceptional facilitation and corporate training miracles was on every lip within my organization.
What had changed? I figured the warfare, and deployed my armory! I came upon the startling knowledge that my struggle with balance in my life was the same war many women were losing in their lives. The War was to subdue the dreams and destiny of visionary women because of the demands of marriage, motherhood, ministry, and the marketplace. The War was to clutter the lives of women with daily chores so that they have no energy left to dream, to create, and to birth. The War was to make women think they had to choose between their highest vision and their family. The War preceded me, but now, I could emerge a victor.
I am now a mother of three young children and I have surely grown my mastery of an agile system that helps me balance my priorities without trading any of the things that matter to me. I love being a wife, I love being a mum, and I love being a fabulous woman; but I also love being a ministry gift, a personal transformation coach, an international development consultant, and an author. None has to give, if they all align to my central purpose on earth.
Today, working with the wisdom that sustains my different roles; I now serve my purpose through multiple expressions without fitting into society’s hole of “be known for only one thing”. The reason many women shrink from exploring their multi-dimensional dream is the fear that there’d be too many balls to juggle. This is why I use tested coaching frameworks and tools that have worked for me, to help women release their higher versions, and build a well-engineered system around their multi-influential lives.
It is possible! In 7 years, and as a mother of three young children; I have written 16 books, spoken at more than 400 conferences, started and grown two businesses, and two ministry expressions. My Coaching Business – IMMERSE Coaching Company, has graduated over 9, 000 women across 11 countries from its bouquet of courses. My Social Impact Advisory Business, Ideation Hub Africa, has curated and hosted 4 editions of Development Dialogue, which is Nigeria’s leading third sector conference, with some of Africa’s most influential leaders as speakers. I also lead a faith-based local assembly with my husband and teach God’s Word at several churches every month. Through my diverse expressions; I am building a wealth empire that I could not have envisioned just three years ago, in income, impact and influence.
Amidst several awards, I was recognized as a 2014 New Leader for Tomorrow in the order of business, government, and parliaments at Crans Montana Forum in Geneva; an award conferred before several Presidents and world leaders. I have served twice as a Distinguished Mentor on the Queen’s Young Leader Awards (a fellowship by the UK Government in honor of exceptional young leaders in the Common Wealth). Last year, the US Government selected me as one of Africa’s most promising young leaders and a Mandela Washington Fellow. Just recently, I was listed as one of the 100 Most Inspiring Nigerian Women 2019 and continue to serve as a Youth Representative on the Nigerian Economic Summit Group.
Today, I want women to experience the breath-taking joy of finding, following, and fulfilling their life’s purpose without having to choose between their vision and their family or any other thing that matters to them. I want women to discover the mastery of balance and structure in their lives; so they can do much more. I want women to live full lives, expressing their multi-passionate, multi-dimensional, and multi-influential selves. I want women to build wealth through their work, and grow prosperity by serving their purpose. This is what women achieve when I work with them!
I believe if you find the wisdom that works, plus a community that cares; you can accomplish phenomenal things in your life. This is the drive behind IMMERSE Inner Circle; to provide go-getter women, like you, with the coaching, courses, content, and community that make their dreams doable. It would be my absolute pleasure to walk with you.